The corner office. Part 2

This week (on Tuesday) there was another incident that will be known forever as the continuation of "The corner office"...

My boss told me that our general manager and VP (the same person, with 2 titles; from here on reffered as GM) had gone to Pepe's facility the previous Friday, so we should go to GM's office to "investigate" what was the status... So we went... And over the conversation the GM said something like:

"I think Pepe was trying to compliment Pilar when he made those comments, it came out the wrong way, but he was trying to express his admiration for Pilar's work and determination"

I was like, REALLY?!?!!? No shit?!?!?! WTF???

I usually don't have good come backs right away, but I also usually overanalyze things... And when I saw the GM on the production floor that afternoon I approached him, because, I wanted to know how I/ME/YO felt about what Pepe said (which should be his main concern, right?)...

I basically told him that it was "interesting" to hear his perspective about the incident, because it could "help me" (I guess) to see it differently and not be as pissed off about it... And I told him what I heard (I am an ugly bitch)...

The GM and I talked for a bit, and I kind of sensed that he wasn't changing his perception and he wanted me to change my mind also, so I dropped it and moved on...

I thought that was the end of the story... John and I talked about it that night, he had some good points:

1) Does that mean, for instance, that somebody at work can tell you "F you", but it's OK because he didn't mean it???

2) There's no way, that in a heated argument somebody would "choose" to compliment the person you're arguing with, right?

On Wednesday, my boss called me to his office for something else, but before talking about the other topic, he said "oh, by the way, GM told me you talked to him yesterday"...

I'm not going to get into the details, but basically he told me to watch out who I shared my "bad news" with per say, or negative comments because some people (aka GM) don't take it well... But that, maybe I could try and look at it less negatively and not be one sided??? WTF?!?!?!?!

Ok, let's say that I'm very negative and take everything the wrong way... But as far as I remember... EVERYBODY that has heard the story about what Pepe said that was super rude of him, totally out of place and that I should been very pissed off about it (heck, our Program Manager even said I should hit him), right? "Even" my friends from Mexico said that was totally inappropriate... Bottom line, it's NOT just me that took it the "wrong way", as a matter of fact, GM is the only person who think it was a compliment.

And, for that matter, my (half) brother in law, who works at Intel in Guadalajara said he (Pepe) would've gotten fired at his company too, IN MEXICO, for the comments he made.

I guess I tried to convince myself that I wasn't offended about his comments, thinking "he doesn't really know what he's saying", BUT I did feel offended, I'm just trying not to make it a big deal because I know I need to deal with it professionally and treat it as business... and for my peace of mind...

Whew!!! I think all the crap added insult to injury, if GM thought that Pepe was really complementing me, he should've aske ME first what I felt... As far as I know, one should apologize if one offends somebody, even when you don't think what you said or did was offensive... And his (GM's) comments only made me feel like "do you think I'm stupid???" LOL

Any way... I hope this is the last time I have to talk about this... I just needed to vent... I know that I won't work there forever.

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Esta semana (el martes) ocurrio un incidente que sera conocido para siempre como la segunda parte del blog "The corner office".

Mi jefe me dijo que el gerente general y VP (la misma persona, tiene 2 titulos; a quien se conocera como GG a lo largo del blog) habia ido a la planta de Pepe el viernes, y que deberiamos ir a la oficina del GG a "investigar" cual era el status... Asi que fuimos... Y durante la conversacion el GG dijo algo como:

"Yo creo que los comentarios de Pepe eran un elogio para Pilar, lo dijo de una mala forma, pero estaba tratando de decir que admiraba el trabajo y la determinacion de Pilar"

Que??? Neta??? No me chingues!!!!

Usualmente no tengo buenas "reacciones verbales" inmediatamente, pero tambien usualmente sobre analizo las cosas... Asi que cuando vi al GG esa tarde en el piso de produccion me le acerque para decirle lo que YO pensaba acerca de lo que dijo Pepe (lo que deberia su "preocupacion" principal al respecto, no?).

Total que le dije me habia parecido "interesante" su perspectiva acerca del incidente porque me podria "ayudar" a mi (por decirlo de algun modo) a verlo de una manera diferente y no estar tan molesta al respecto... Y le dije lo que yo habia oido (que yo estaba fea y era ojete)...

El GG y yo hablamos un rato y cuando vi que no estaba cambiando de parecer y que mas bien me queria convencer de lo que el pensaba, me di por vencida y me fui...

Pense que ese era el final de la historia... John y yo hablamos sobre el tema esa noche y el hizo 2 muy buenas observaciones:

1) Entonces eso quiere decir que alguien te puede decir en el trabajo chinga a tu madre, pero como no fue lo que queria decir esta bien???

2) No hay manera, que en medio de una "pelea" alguien "escoja" decirte un elogio, cierto???

El miercoles mi jefe me mando llamar a su oficina para otra cosa, pero antes de entrar en materia me dijo "GG me dijo que hablaste con el ayer"...

No voy a entrar en detalles, pero basicamente lo que me dijo fue que tuviera cuidado con a quien le doy "malas noticias" o hago comentarios negativos porque a "algunas personas" (GG) no los toman bien... Pero que tal vez yo podria dejar de ver el incidente tan negativamente y de un solo "lado"... Que?!?!?!

Ok, vamos a decir que yo soy super negativa y todo lo tomo a mal... Pero por lo que me acuerdo TODAS las personas a las que les conte lo que paso me dijeron que el comentario de Pepe fue totalmente inapropiado y sumamente sexita, es mas, hasta nuestra Gerente de Programa me pregunto si lo habia golpeado. "Hasta" mis amigos de Mexico me dijeron que se pasaba y que era totalmente inapropiado... En resumen, YO no fui la unica persona que lo tomo mal, es mas, la unica persona que penso que era un elogio fue el GG...

Incluso mi (medio) cunado dijo que en Intel en Guadalajara sus comentarios tambien hubieran sido motivo de despido en MEXICO.

Creo que de cierta manera me trate de auto convencer de que no estaba ofendida, y trataba de pensar que en realidad "no sabia lo que estaba diciendo", PERO si me senti ofendida, pero he estado tratando de minimizarlo porque es parte del negocio y para actuar profesionalmente... y por mi salud mental.

Whew!!! Creo que todo esto mas que hacerme sentir bien fue echarle sal a la herida, si el GG realmente pensaba que Pepe habia tratado de elogiarme, me hubiera preguntado primero a MI que pensaba, porque de donde yo soy, si una persona piensa que la ofendiste, uno se disculpa por lo que dijo o hizo, aunque no creo que sea ofensivo... Y los comentarios del GG me hicieron pensar "cree que estoy pendeja???"... Jajaja...

De cualquier manera, espero que esta sea la ultima vez que tengo que hablar de esto... Solo queria desahogarme... Yo se que no voy a trabajar ahi para siempre.